tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.comments2023-09-30T05:51:18.763-05:00to grow to learn to love to live...jessi casarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08344727490258253071noreply@blogger.comBlogger467125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-92001160402766121222016-10-02T18:36:59.828-05:002016-10-02T18:36:59.828-05:00I totally get you! ~your long lost roommateI totally get you! ~your long lost roommateMarsha Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01087523142894346032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-47764786135501680082016-06-04T16:08:27.624-05:002016-06-04T16:08:27.624-05:00I get that. Love is a choice and so is falling in ...I get that. Love is a choice and so is falling in love. There is always a way. Especially when two people work together its always easier with support. But why do people who fall in love cant seem to stay in love? One person says "I choose me" it could be the dumper or the dumpee no matter. But after surviving a divorce and dealing with a recent breakup Im convinced if there ever is a other woman in my life shes gonna have to convince me to burn my boat, and convince me she knows love is an active day by day moment by moment choice. I only play for keeps, and after losing twice Im pretty sure I only have one more round left in me.L.E.F.E.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-91025342471882365762016-04-30T23:38:43.668-05:002016-04-30T23:38:43.668-05:00Thanks so much Kathy! And yes, feel free to share....Thanks so much Kathy! And yes, feel free to share. :)jessi casarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08344727490258253071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-29496632866883641342016-04-30T22:11:19.447-05:002016-04-30T22:11:19.447-05:00Wow, Jessie, this is profound and brave and well, ...Wow, Jessie, this is profound and brave and well, just huge. I have yet to read one article on this issue that could come close to presenting this in such a heartfelt & truthful manner. Your testimony is huge sweet girl! Thank you for sharing it and hope you don't mind me sharing this very well written post. Hugs and much love to you sweet girl!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15972140575384326366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-39672748223051588382015-11-04T12:40:50.646-06:002015-11-04T12:40:50.646-06:00Thank you so much everyone :)Thank you so much everyone :)jessi casarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08344727490258253071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-49666155450726004452015-10-24T06:33:04.438-05:002015-10-24T06:33:04.438-05:00What a sweet babyWhat a sweet babylyricshttp://www.lyricsparoles.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-1162268874433332792015-10-24T06:31:17.118-05:002015-10-24T06:31:17.118-05:00your work is awesomely awesome. thanks for sharing...your work is awesomely awesome. thanks for sharing :]<br />lyricshttp://www.lyricsparoles.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-52718085824525906442015-07-18T09:29:20.430-05:002015-07-18T09:29:20.430-05:00Jessi with tears flowing I want to thank you for t...Jessi with tears flowing I want to thank you for the most beautiful, sweetest gift anyone could ever receive. We all will chairish it for generations and will be displayed in our home.. I also want to thank you Jessi and you're Mom Cindy for everything y'all have done for our children Brook and Dillan. Whether y'all realize it y'all were so much support for Gregg and I also. We are so lucky and happy to have Y'ALL , Kena and the rest of the family joining in with ours. I felt the strong love and family bond you all have, which is becoming more uncommon these days. I haven't got to see the dvd you made for Drake but i hear it's just beautiful!!!! Thank you for your hard work and time on that. I look forward to our trip to Gulf Shores to see you all again. Y'all have really touched our hearts. Love ConnieAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01182962909598370482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-12717946959675008062015-07-10T20:40:14.123-05:002015-07-10T20:40:14.123-05:00But what I don't get is if you find that you a...But what I don't get is if you find that you are missing your best friend why break up to begin with? I mean why not make it work, compromise for God's sake! If a man who you were obviously attracted to treats you well and wants to build a life together then why break it apart? There is no perfect relationship but we make is perfect for us by the choices we make. My ex of three years loved me but broke up with me because she could not "fathum" the thought of marriage and not being able to escape if needed. Only to regret her decision when she realizes I am an awesome man and probably irreplaceable. Love is not just a feeling but an action and a choice to act. People (men and women both) walk away bc they loose that feeling but the feeling naturally waxes and wanes. Then the person who get dumped tries to talk and work things through to save the relationship but the dumber get annoyed and cuts the person out of their life. It's only when the dumpee finally moves that the dumper understands that ny their own hands they have lost the best thing that ever happened to them forever! They try to get it back but too late. It's all too sad but it it life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-44859002405471460012014-07-23T09:59:05.753-05:002014-07-23T09:59:05.753-05:00Jessi,
I totally agree with this! 100%--no 110%-...Jessi, <br /><br />I totally agree with this! 100%--no 110%--maybe even 200%. Christians made me realize I'm not a Christian. I can't be that hardhearted. I am a Quaker, but I don't consider myself "Christian". I'd be embarrassed to hold such a title with the way mainstream Christians behave. My son has been told he's going to hell because he's a Quaker and isn't 100% certain that Jesus is his savior. We all have spiritual journeys and that's his.<br /><br />My closest family member (my great-grandmother) was a strong Christian woman. She epitomized Christ's message and not a single person in our family can remember her judging others or talking poorly about someone else. She was of the mind that it wasn't her business and it was best to keep mouths closed and be thought a fool than to open them and remove all doubt. <br /><br />Some of my dearest friends are sincere Christians who struggle with their own weakness and don't look at others so much. It's refreshing to see that sort of spirituality does still exist. It's there, I promise! But the majority...? Well, they are just what they are. We can judge and be dragged down with them, or extend the love we long to feel in our own hearts. It's a tough call sometimes and I admit it, I judge many, many times. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150762631366503845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-57009060466417494042014-02-27T15:16:25.952-06:002014-02-27T15:16:25.952-06:00Hi Jessi! My name is Cameron and I was wondering i...Hi Jessi! My name is Cameron and I was wondering if I could ask you a quick question about your blog when you have a moment. I can be reached at my email above. Thanks! I hope to hear from you soon. :) Have a great day!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13224008685151269525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-67726714828015546532014-02-24T10:55:18.182-06:002014-02-24T10:55:18.182-06:00Real life has a plot, too, but sometimes we have t...Real life has a plot, too, but sometimes we have trouble seeing the plot, because it is developing more slowly and we are too close to the action. But if you keep a diary and go back to it in ten, twenty years, you should be able to make out the plot.<br /><br />There is a time to read, a time to live, and a time to write about living. Then, years later, you can review.Aya Katzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12339668413030878426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-29874799343063709722014-01-10T11:36:10.036-06:002014-01-10T11:36:10.036-06:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Surajhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12272094642981798458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-18599253710859592522013-11-14T08:35:15.334-06:002013-11-14T08:35:15.334-06:00So glad you told me your story. And it really isn&...So glad you told me your story. And it really isn't nonsense Mr. Whoever You Are. It was not meant to be, and I made the right choice. It did not end badly, it just ended, and then I lost my best friend. That's what sucked. My life completely changed. And I am very happy for him now. He is now married to a lovely girl, and obviously I made the right choice. But at the time, it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I don't think it's wrong, and certainly isn't nonsense, to feel a loss when you lose someone you care about, even if it is your choice. It makes perfect sense. And the fact that this is my most popular post leads me to believe that I am not the only one who deals with it...jessi casarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08344727490258253071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-82664175424812446822013-11-14T08:20:28.355-06:002013-11-14T08:20:28.355-06:00Oh my gosh I cry at Glee too. And Parenthood. Have...Oh my gosh I cry at Glee too. And Parenthood. Have you seen Parenthood?! I weep. Every. Single. Episode. Glad someone else understands :)jessi casarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08344727490258253071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-28296685627534096102013-10-14T14:56:07.202-05:002013-10-14T14:56:07.202-05:00I find it completely normal to get emotionally att...I find it completely normal to get emotionally attached to fictional characters...but maybe I'm bias because I cry while watching Glee :)SaysMindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06310627808475268146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-16179555306721620032013-09-12T18:04:29.344-05:002013-09-12T18:04:29.344-05:00word.word.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-8526066856732539832013-08-21T10:34:54.801-05:002013-08-21T10:34:54.801-05:00Part 2 of above post (sorry I wrote too much but i...Part 2 of above post (sorry I wrote too much but it all goes together) :)<br /><br />The 2nd breakup was instigated by me, hence the dumper's remorse. Once I broached the subject, he immediately told me that he wanted us to get married and have a future and be together forever. It was stuff I wanted to hear years ago and completely blurred my perspective on the real reasons I wanted us to be apart (no intimacy, we never argued because we never talked about anything real, if we did argue he had a horrible temper, still the drinking, he wasn't understanding of my anxiety). We stuck it out for a few weeks until I went on a trip with friends and didn't think about him the entire time. I didn't miss him or want him there. I felt like "me" again. I knew then that maybe it was time to end it. So I did. And as I said earlier, I felt strong and confident about it, then the regret set in. ...because it's hard to deal with the change, the loneliness, I feel depressed and lack the desire to do stuff for me like I wanted to do before. I want to call him yet I resist the urge. Because someday, if we're meant to be then we will. But I feel like I won't know if that's right unless I try life on my own. Does that make sense to anyone? He's the only relationship I've ever had (and I'm 29). I feel like although most of my friends are settled down and married, I was not ready to think of that and wondered what more life had in store for me. I have no desire to date right now. I need to get out of this slump and start to like myself again first. I dread finding out that he's dating again, or that he's engaged or something. I think that no matter how awful breakup circumstances were, that is ALWAYS going to hurt. <br /><br />I'm sorry for rambling and if you read all of this then I appreciate you. I'm really glad I came across this, because I wanted to know if anyone felt this way... or has gotten through it. Really, I think the most important thing to remember if you experience the remorse is that you had reasons, good ones (unless this was just a crisis where you wanted to go sleep around or something) for ending the relationship. It's hard to let go. But I think this is normal and it will get better. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-82650944795827603082013-08-21T10:33:50.459-05:002013-08-21T10:33:50.459-05:00This is not "typical female nonsense." ...This is not "typical female nonsense." Ladies: regardless of the dumper's remorse (I am currently suffering) we had reasons for ending our relationships. This is what I keep telling myself and it IS true. It is only natural for us to freak out on that first lonely night, or on an occasion that we'd normally have spent with him. I recently celebrated my bday without him, for the first time in 6 years.I spent most of the day in tears. I wanted him to call. I have been doing a lot of writing lately. I would advise it to any of you, if you find writing therapeutic. Make a list of all of the good things you miss. It will hurt. Then make a list of what you won't miss. The most annoying things about him. Times that he MADE you cry. Times he hurt your feelings, got drunk and said cruel things then didn't remember them. You DO have those memories, you just aren't remembering them right now because this is scary - this change. Change is hard, but often, it ends up being a beautiful, exciting thing. <br />It has been one 1 month since my split and while I felt strong and confident with my decision at first, the regret came within a few weeks. Did I throw away the best thing I ever had? No. Maybe it was the best thing up until now, but not the best thing for ME. Talk to your friends who you surely discussed your breakup plan with before. I'm sure you expressed legitimate, real concerns about your relationship that warranted "the talk" with your man. Your friends will be good reinforces of those reasons. It's going to get better for all of us. <br />If things are meant to be with me and my ex, or you and your ex, then they will. As cliche as it sounds, I think everything DOES happen for a reason. For instance, this was the second try on this relationship for me. We'd been together almost 5 years, had been having some arguments, and he dumped me (via short phone call) out of the blue, rather than discussing what was causing our problems. It was the most devastating thing that had happened to me! Regardless of this awful breakup and some of the horrible things that had happened in our relationship (drinking problems, disrespectful remarks, no desire to talk about long-term commitment, making me a 2nd priority, etc), all I could think of were the things about him that were unique, unique to our relationship, the things that made me laugh that I felt I wouldn't find anywhere else. Inside jokes. I got into therapy and though it took a long time, I started to figure myself out. I had to – to figure out who I was without him. And I started to like that person and gain back self-confidence I didn't realize I lost. Then, just when I thought I had a handle on "me," he came back and wanted to try again. I jumped into it without much thought. Come to realize, the "me" I'd become didn't really fit with him. I'd become really independent and didn't want to do much with him. Didn't really tell a lot of people we were back together because I knew many would disapprove after the pain I'd been through. I had a life of my own that I wasn't sure I wanted to share. It's almost like I knew from the start of "the 2nd try" that it wouldn't really work, but I tried anyway and enjoyed having him around, although it ended up feeling more like a friendship and I always felt like a stifled version of "me" with him. Point being: I think that we broke up so that I could find myself. We got back together so that I could realize I liked that person I'd become/rediscovered and maybe there was actually a better match for me out there. I went back to school and took up hobbies I'd never even thought to try in the time we were apart. I really bettered myself.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-4597439860665438022013-08-10T18:04:26.320-05:002013-08-10T18:04:26.320-05:00So pretty! Nice photography!!
Lorraine xx
http://...So pretty! Nice photography!!<br /><br />Lorraine xx<br />http://lollikelly.blogspot.co.uk/Raineys Crochet https://www.blogger.com/profile/18358660631097567218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-62327961886875772782013-06-12T11:14:12.324-05:002013-06-12T11:14:12.324-05:00Typical female nonsense. You women never know when...Typical female nonsense. You women never know when you have a good thing, always looking for something better. Joke. I don't feel sorry for any of you in the above stated position. You know why you feel bad? You made the wrong choice. You walked out of his life. You ended all the good things you now miss ... you have nobody to blame but yourself. Why do women equate being treated with respect as a sign of weakness? Go on, go find yourself a jerk you can fall-all-over, go find yourself a project worth fixing. Exhausting. I feel no sympathy for any of you ... you screwed up, big time, now you have to deal with your obvious mistake. I hope the guy mentioned above moves on and keeps moving on. Good luck, man. To the second-guessing women, how typical. Deal with it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-64191442454293168222013-04-27T21:00:54.987-05:002013-04-27T21:00:54.987-05:00I am so sorry for what happened to you!
I am glad ...I am so sorry for what happened to you!<br />I am glad that you've found the strength to move on and the strength to write about it. People do need to know that this happens. And it's people with strength like yours that will inspire and change the world.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-49350369471906039812012-10-24T20:44:57.652-05:002012-10-24T20:44:57.652-05:00Thanks :)Thanks :)jessi casarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08344727490258253071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-90902722261677947942012-10-24T10:36:22.057-05:002012-10-24T10:36:22.057-05:00You wrote that so well :)<3You wrote that so well :)<3Karan Khttp://kapoorkaran.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12149235.post-84114657453497832012-07-25T18:14:34.966-05:002012-07-25T18:14:34.966-05:00Isn't it great?! Thanks for the encouragement!...Isn't it great?! Thanks for the encouragement!jessi casarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08344727490258253071noreply@blogger.com